Unless you are an heir to a mining magnate or you have yourself swimming with cash like Scrooge McDuck, we all work for our living. We toil every day to fund our lifestyles, dreams, and aspirations (or mostly our dinners). And if you’re like me, we still have a long way to go.
And it can be rough at times. How can we be happy before getting our end goal? A search in Google pops these proverbial words: “Work-Life Balance”.
To achieve happiness, we must attain a lifestyle Nirvana. A balance between working and living your life. With these signs of a whacked work-life balance, is this even possible to attain?
Work-Life Balance may exist. But it’s not as you think. Before you trek to this dark unknown “work-life” world, let me help you dispel the lies of work-life balance. These are work-life balance myths you should watch out for.
Setting Impossible Expectations
Most people think that to be happy, we must be able to do everything we want in a day. Like literally everything in a day. Sorry to burst your bubble, but you can’t. We can only do so much.
Don’t be hard on yourself. Learn to cut down your to-do lists to a few important things to finish in a day. Know your priorities and stick to finishing them first. Make it easy and doable.
Fixating Yourself to a Perfect Work-Life Ratio
Ok, so now we know. We need to set our priorities. So, do you drop your work for your family? What is the proper mix? 12 hours for work and 5 hours for your family?
Sad to say, there is no right or wrong answer. What applies to other people might not even apply to you. For the simple reason that you’re priorities and work is different.
There are different ratios for different people. And these ratios will surely change depending on the changing circumstances. An example is a sudden barrage of work because of an upcoming product launch you are leading. Your personal work-life ratio will surely be different as compared to low-season work.
You must know yourself. And find the personal ratio best for you.
Not Accepting that Work and Life is Intertwined
In line with being fixated, the notion that a clear line separating your work and life will just frustrate you. If you’re spending most of your time working, how can you say that it is not part of your living?
The earlier we accept that our work and life are intertwined, the more we can do to be happier.
Focusing More on Scheduling Rather Than Your Purpose
And that brings me to my most important point. If we now accept the circumstance of our work-life, how can we be happy amidst this intertwined fate?
The best answer I can think of. You can only be happy if you focus on finding your purpose. Find something you really like to do. And you’re really good at (to the point you can earn from it).
Getting achievements in what you do and enjoyment to boot will make you embrace the erratic “work-life” balance you aspire.
So Do We Leave Our Jobs Now?
If you can find something you like to do, and will not be a pauper after, go for it. Change jobs now.
If you’re in the position that you can’t leave your job, you can start off with a compromise. Try your luck looking for side hustles (without getting fired) that can feed your passion until you find the perfect setup for you.
You’ll never know. This side hustle can blossom into a future career you would definitely work hours for. After all, you don’t want to stay in a job amidst these definitive signs to leave it.
If you begin to know yourself and find your purpose, you can eventually oversimplify everything. With this simplicity, you will be surprised at how few priorities truly matter.