Why do people hate to move out? Why do people avoid breakups even if they’ve been cheated on? Why do people continue to stay in their jobs even if they hate it? Why do people hate to start over?
Actually, people don’t “hate” to start over because, in reality, people are “afraid” to start again. Why? Here’s why:
Back to Zero
All our lives, we’ve been proving ourselves to someone that we are worthy. To our lover, boss, officemates, and friends. Worthy to be loved and appreciated, right? And if we end a certain relationship or quit our job, it means that everything that we’ve worked will vanish in just a blink of an eye.
We choose to stay in a toxic relationship or in a job that we hate because we are afraid to throw everything that we have invest. Time, effort, love, and money all of it will be gone for nothing, everything will be back to zero and all we have is ourselves.
We are afraid to move to another place or country because we’re afraid to reset everything and begin with nothing.
Never Knowing What’s Next?
“What will happen after this?”, “When should I start?”, “Do I have something to start?” Feeling lost and helpless, some people don’t want to encounter this stage. When we end something we have a lot of time for ourselves and dependent people fear this. But independent people? They crave for it.
Solitude, the state or situation of being alone. Why are people afraid of it? Simple, because they didn’t learn to love themselves before loving someone else. People are afraid to end and start over because they are afraid that others won’t love them back because they can’t even love their selves.
Fear of Judgement
Of course, no one can escape the judgmental eyes of our society. And the reason why people are afraid to end things is that they are also afraid of what others will say to them. It’s a shame when people think that we’re a failure, that we didn’t end well like others.
But should we really care what people think? Does it really matter? Fear of judgment hinders us to be who we should be. And I know that you know it, so why should you care, right?
You know, sometimes quitting is a good thing, ending a relationship is fine, moving to another city or country is okay. Fear is everywhere and we can’t avoid it, all we can do is turn that fear into something positive.
Learn to twist your perspective a little, look for a silver lining and look on the brighter side of life because you’re the only one who can help and save yourself from all the negativity in this world.
Remember, every ending comes a new beginning, so don’t be afraid to start over and use that opportunity to be a better you.