For some, solitude is an opportunity to have peace and to know themselves more. But not everyone enjoys the feeling of being alone. Some of us even feel alone even if we have friends and family around us.
Well, we have various of viewpoint when it comes to being alone but if you’re wondering why you often feel lonely even if you have friends, then here are some possible reasons why.
We feel alone because we are alone in our heads and in our hearts
Let’s go straight to the point, you feel alone because you’re alone in your mind. You think that no one will understand you because you’re the only one who can understand yourself. You often isolate yourself to the idea that no one will be there when you need someone even if you know that your friends will.
Maybe it’s true, that you’re the only one who can understand yourself, the loneliness that you feel inside and all the random emotions. But you must also know that you’re the only one who can help yourself. Save yourself from all the negative thoughts and start living.
We compare ourselves to others
At some time, every single one of us has compared ourselves to another in a way that shut us down. Trust me when I say that comparing yourself to others will drag you down to the ground.
I remember when I was still young, I often browse from my social media account and see people who have fancy clothes, shoes, gadgets, and etc. I often say to myself, “I wish I have those things.” and it made me feel worse knowing the fact that I will never have those stuff.
Feelings as jealousy, resentment, and anger, it will all drag you down to the ground until you feel that you are alone and no one understands what you feel.
Always remember to never ever compare yourself to others. We have our own different timeline, we are never late to our own success.
You are struggling with codependency
Codependency involves using others for your sense of self-worth. You always depend on others that sometimes you feel worthless when you’re alone.
Most of these people need others to love them back because they are still struggling with learning how to love themselves.
I think everyone will agree when I say that every one of us has felt alone once or twice in our lives. It’s normal, we are human and we have emotions. But don’t let that loneliness hinder you from living your life.
Learn to love yourself first, know your worth and you’ll never feel alone again.