Being a migrant is tough. You’re oceans away from the ones you love, adapting to an entirely different country, struggling to master the vernacular, and still learning the ropes at work. Indeed, it can be quite lonely.
On the other hand, being someplace new also means a whole new dating pool. Now, depending on how you see that, it can either be daunting or exciting. Or both.
Provided that you are single (i.e., not in a relationship or unmarried, emphasis on UNMARRIED), dating as an immigrant can open up a lot of doors for you. It can help you meet new people, forge connections with potentially useful contacts, and pave the way for you to start a family, if you like.
But where to begin? Don’t worry, we’ve got you covered.
- Don’t hesitate to date a local.
- Join Facebook groups.
- Attend community events.
- Don’t be afraid to try online dating.
- Make damn sure the person you’re dating isn’t married.
While it’s tempting to focus only on your fellow Filipinos or migrants, you shouldn’t close the door on interracial dating either.
For starters, native Australians can probably help you acclimate to your new home better and faster. Locals would know the best neighborhoods to live in, where you can have a decent meal for a good price, which numbers to call if something in your house breaks, and so on.
In addition to that, dating a foreigner is great for expanding your worldview. Since they grew up in a different culture, they’ll have different perspectives on matters like work, family, and relationships.
Besides, word has it that the world finds Filipinos irresistible. Might as well make the most out of it.
New to Australia? Don’t know anyone? The Internet is your friend.
Facebook, for instance, has a lot of support groups for Filipino migrants in Australia. You may have to answer a few questions before being granted access to these, but they mostly pertain to following the group’s policies.
They are, however, invaluable resources for any Filipino migrant trying to establish a life Down Under. Here, you’ll find fellow migrants selling/looking for useful appliances, mothers looking for playdates for their kids, and people inviting others to hang out, basically. If you’re active on these, you may just find your next date through them as well.
And speaking of hanging out…
These present great opportunities for meeting new friends (who can possibly turn out to be something more). If you’ve just started dating someone, community events are also low-pressure environments where you can both let your hair down and simply enjoy each other’s company.
Better yet, you can try and volunteer at such events. You never know who you’ll meet in the process.
Dating someone from work can complicate things, but if you’re too busy to mingle elsewhere, there are always dating apps. These certainly save time as you can filter the profiles according to your preferences.
Do be very upfront about your intentions, however. Indicating whether you’re looking for a serious relationship or just a bit of fun clears the air and paves the way for better communication.
Really, this should go without saying, but it does bear repeating. Far too many migrant families back home are torn asunder when a parent abroad strays from the marriage. If you can help it, don’t be the catalyst for such an event. Should the person you’re eyeing turn out to be committed, extricate yourself and move on to the next one.
One last word of caution, though. Do adjust your expectations. If you are like most of the Filipinos who go abroad in search of a better life for your family, your love life will probably take a back seat to that goal.
But if you and your dates are cool with that, then by all means, put yourself out there.