Talk to them regularly
It doesn’t matter if you’ve had a long day or if you have dinner plans with work friends. No matter what happens, take the time out to talk to your kids regularly.
And this is not just about small talk. Ask them how school was, and who their friends are. Listen to their stories. Share a few of your own. Remember that the few minutes you spend with them everyday would mean a lot, especially if they’re going through tough times.
Consider yourself lucky that the internet makes it easier for you to communicate.
Plan shared activities
Who says distance will keep you and your kids from doing anything together?
Some families Skype while they’re having dinner. Some Facetime each other while they’re out shopping. Some also take part in helping their kids out with school work.
Remember that even if you’re far apart, distance is just an excuse. There are so many ways to continue sharing precious moments with your kids – don’t waste them.
Plan about your next trip home
Sometimes, kids get used to their parents being gone. That’s okay, but the moment they stop looking forward to you coming home, that’s where the real problem starts.
Make your kids excited about what you plan on doing together on your next trip home. Maybe they want to go out of town. There could be a theme park you could visit. The possibilities are endless!
Make sure that you plan this together as a family. This way, you make the entire process even more exciting for them.
Tell them about your long-term goals
Sometimes, kids are at a loss about why their parents chose to leave instead of staying back home. Especially for the younger kids, it’s not unusual to find them wondering why their friends’ parents are earning a decent amount of money in the Philippines. It makes them feel that you could have also made the choice to stay.
Don’t shield your kids from the harsh reality that sometimes, difficult decisions have to be made to secure their future. However, don’t make this a negative thing for them.
Instead, tell them about your long-term goals and make them feel excited about the same things. You could be planning a business for the family, or a new home somewhere. Share these goals with them and help them understand where this sacrifice is leading to.
Share important moments together
Just because you’re far away does not mean that moment together will stop. If your son finally learned how to ride a bike without training wheels, talk to him about it and share his excitement. If you got a promotion, make sure that they’re the first ones you call.
Note that this does not just involve the good times. You can share even the worst days together. Be there through your daughter’s first break up. Console your son for not making it to the varsity team.These may not seem much to you, but to your kids, knowing that you’re there no matter what will make them forget the distance. Parenting is already a tough job. Having to do it overseas is even harder. But if you focus on the prize and remember what all this is for, it all becomes worth it and you’ll learn to celebrate all the high and the lows that come with the situation. Special thanks to Answers.com for the main image.