Borrowing is as simple as it seems. You borrow something, they lend it to you, then you return it back. But believe it or not, borrowing can cause a lot of chaos between the borrower and the lender. And take note, even friends, families, and relatives are not exempted from this.
Yes, borrowing can turn into brawl especially when a person doesn’t know how to do it properly. So, for the sake of everyone, here are some basic guidelines that can help you understand how borrowing should be done.
Only ask your closest friends.
If you really need to borrow something, always ask your closest friends and family. Not to mention that they need to trust you first before lending something, so borrow from people who trust you.
Ask with plenty of notice.
For example, you need to borrow a dress for an event next month, make sure that you will remind the lender weeks before the actual event. In this way, the lender has more time to prepare the dress that you’ll borrow.
Pick up the item at the lender’s convenience.
You’re the one who needs it, so better pick up the item to your lender’s place. Right?
Return it in exactly the same condition as they lent it to you.
The item that you borrowed should be in the same condition when it was lent to you. It will also be a good idea if you’ll return it in better condition. For instances, if you borrowed a dress, make sure that you’ll bring it to the laundry shop first before returning it.
Do not ask to borrow sentimental or heirloom clothing or items.
Jewelry, vintage gowns, and etc. If you saw your friends or family wearing something that you want to borrow, ask them first if those are sentimental or heirloom.
If it is, then don’t borrow it as a respect to their prized possessions.
Return promptly with a thank you note.
Since you’ve made an effort on borrowing it, then you better make an effort on returning it too. Also, don’t forget to call and say thank you or write a thank you note.
If an item is damaged while in your possession, repair or replace immediately.
Accidents happen. So if you damage the item that you’ve borrowed, make sure that you’ll repair it or replace it IMMEDIATELY. Also, apologize to your lender and make sure that you’ll keep your promise on replacing/repairing it.
If someone says no to your request, respect and move on.
Always respect someone’s decision. If they don’t want to lend their things, then move on and ask someone else. It’s their stuff anyway so respect their decision.
There’s nothing wrong with borrowing. We often borrow stuff because we need it for an event or we only need it for a short period of time. It can be hard sometimes but always remember that when you borrow something, you’re not only borrowing an item, you are also borrowing their trust to you. So better return it in a good or even better condition.