Some of us believe that love is a magical sensation that we feel whenever our perfect match appears. Just like in the movies when two strangers meet in a coffee shop or in a park, they’ll feel a certain spark and ta-daaa they are now instant lovers. Cliché, right?
But I guess it only shows that falling in love is easier than falling out of love. But why are there people who don’t seem to find love even if they are at the right time? Here are the reasons why…
One of the factors why some people are single is because they expect much and set an unrealistic standard. We are influenced by books and movies with perfect love stories and forget that their world is different from ours.
The fairytale love stories that we imagine makes us more critical on who should we commit to. But let me remind you that the perfect man doesn’t exist but there will always be someone who will try his best to be the perfect man for you.
Having low self-esteem can affect someone’s communication skills and can hinder him/her to socialize with others.
Before looking for somebody to love, why not love yourself first? Low self-esteem can reduce the quality of a person’s life in many different ways.
Negative feelings like constant self-criticism may lead to persistent feelings of sadness, depression, anxiety, anger, shame or guilt.
That’s why people with low self-esteem don’t find love because they haven’t learned to love themselves.
Stuck in the Past
From all the reason, this one is the most common. People stay single because they haven’t moved on from the past.
They may have experienced too much pain and are still healing from their past relationship. Rushing to love again may only cause trouble that’s why they chose to heal and regain themselves before committing again.
Don’t Prioritize Love
People who are workaholic and too busy to reach success falls in this reason. They don’t find love simply because they are not looking for it.
To others, solitude means loneliness but for them, solitude means peace and independence. You can’t force something to someone who is contented on being alone.
Let’s face it, some people just don’t prioritize love.
You’re Afraid to be Abandoned
Lastly, the fear of being abandoned. These people actually have found love but they’re too afraid to accept it.
They are afraid to be attached to someone, get hurt, and be alone again. Reality check, there’s no such thing as a perfect relationship. There will be ups and downs that will make you better and bolder.
Getting hurt is part of life, everybody in this Earth feels pain so don’t let fear stop you from seeing the brighter side of life.
Finding true love is not easy. We are sometimes destined to meet different people before finding the right one so don’t rush things. If something is meant to happen, it will happen at the right time, with the right person and for the best reason.